My Sleep Support: Do You Just Let Babies Cry?
If you’ve ever Googled baby sleep support (probably at 3am, bleary-eyed, coffee in hand), you’ve likely come across the phrase cry it out — and immediately recoiled. Understandable.
So let’s just clear this up right now:
👉 No, I don’t use cry-it-out.
👉 Yes, there might be some crying.
👉 And no, it doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong.
Now let’s unpack that a bit....
What Is Cry-It-Out Anyway?
“Cry it out” — or CIO — is often used to describe leaving a baby to cry until they fall asleep, with no comfort, no check-ins, no support.
It’s an old-school method, and while it can work for some, it’s not how I roll.
My approach?
👶 Gentle - I choose the settling technique that will cause the least amount of frustration for your baby based on their personality and your parenting style
💛 Responsive
🧠 Backed by sleep science
💬 Fully guided by you - You are the parent, you are always fully in charge of your experience - I am here to guide and cheerlead, never to judge.
So... Will My Baby Cry?
Probably, yes — some crying is a normal part of learning any new skill, including sleep. Think of it as your baby saying, “Hang on... this is different! Where’s my usual routine?!”
But here’s the key:
➡️ Crying is never the goal.
➡️ You’re never told to leave your baby to cry it out.
➡️ You are always in charge of how this looks and feels.
With the right settling technique, we can create the least amount of frustration possible — for you and your baby.
This might look like staying close, using voice or touch, or checking in regularly while giving your little one the chance to learn new sleep skills at their pace.
Why It’s Usually Short-Lived
Here’s the wild part: when sleep support is consistent and well-planned, most babies adjust faster than you’d expect.
I've seen babies go from multiple wake-ups to 11+ hour stretches in just a few nights.
Because once your baby understands what’s happening — and feels supported through it — they stop fighting it.
It’s not magic. It’s science + sleep cues + the right timing + the right plan.
Your Role? Still The Boss.
You’re the parent. You decide:
- What method we use
- How much support you’re comfortable with
- When to slow down, tweak, or adapt
My job?
✔️ Give you the tools
✔️ Talk you through the tough bits
✔️ Cheerlead you when you feel unsure
✔️ Adjust things if something’s not working
You’re never handed a PDF and left to figure it out. This is hands-on, real-time, real-life support
Let’s Be Honest About Sleep
I won’t sugarcoat it: change can be hard for a few days.
Especially when everyone in the house is already exhausted.
But here’s the truth:
✨ Putting in the change now = many, many better nights ahead.
✨ A baby who knows how to sleep = a happier, better-rested baby.
✨ A rested parent = a more confident, present, human parent.
What Working With Me Really Looks Like:
- A sleep plan tailored to your baby (no copy-paste routines)
- Support via WhatsApp from 9am-6pm so you’re never left guessing
- Adjustments as you go — because babies aren’t robots
- And yes, strategies that help your baby sleep longer with as little upset as possible
No guilt. No pressure. No cry-it-out.
Just smart, kind, evidence-based support — with a little edge.